Even if you place 100% of your focus on providing your children with the best life possible after divorce, there’s no hiding from the many co-parenting struggles that are sure to come to light.
In general, the circumstances alone are enough to provide you with a variety of challenges. However, if you add in an ex-spouse who isn’t taking the same approach as you, it’s difficult to stay the course.
Here are some tips you can follow to overcome everyday co-parenting struggles:
- Do what’s best for your children: If all else fails, always make the decision that is in the best interest of your children. They’re the ones in the most difficult spot, and it’s your job to provide as much stability as possible.
- Follow your parenting agreement and visitation schedule: You created both of these during your divorce so that you have something to lean on when co-parenting. There will be times when you need to think outside the box, but for the most part you should stick to these court ordered agreements.
- Communicate with your ex-spouse: It’s easier said than done, but it’s one of the most important things you can do when co-parenting. From texts to email, from phone calls to face-to-face conversations, find a way that allows you to both effectively communicate.
- Keep calm: Your ex may make decisions that drive you crazy. In fact, they may intentionally do things to get under your skin. There are times to stand up for yourself and speak up. There are also times to let issues slide as to keep the peace. But regardless of the circumstances, make sure you keep calm. Becoming angry will only make things worse.
With these tips guiding you, it’s easier to deal with and overcome everyday co-parenting struggles. Unfortunately, they won’t help you deal with every situation, as you never know what could sneak up on you.
If your ex is doing everything in their power to make co-parenting miserable, discuss your concerns with them. Also, review your parenting agreement to better understand if they’re violating it. Should this become a major problem, you may need to request a modification as a means of stabilizing your situation.